5 Surprisingly Simple Tricks Of Effective Communicators

Effective communication is an important part of your life.  Whether you are addressing a group of people or talking with a friend or family member you need to be able to communicate well.

Most people think they are good at communicating with others.  In reality, many people do not communicate as well as they should.

At times we do not communicate with close friends or family members as well as we do with people who are less familiar to us.  Often, we think those close to us understand what we are really not communicating.  Be careful when communicating with someone close that you are not taking for granted they will know what you mean to say, but are not actually saying.

Being a good communicator is a skill which can be learned and developed.  There are some simple tricks which will help you become an effective communicator.

1.  You want to talk so that the other person or group of people will listen.  This means you need to be aware of how your audience is receiving your message.  If they are not projecting interest in what you are saying you need to adjust your communicating so they are listening.  You can talk on and on, but if the person or people to whom you are speaking are not listening to your message you are simply wasting your time.

2.  Be aware of the body language of the people you are talking with.  There are times when someone will not communicate how they really feel about what  you are saying, but their body language may communicate their dissatisfaction.

Be aware of your own body language too.  If you are saying you are happy about something while your face is frowning or you are tapping your foot or avoiding eye contact your listener will not think you are truly happy.  You will not be believed.

3.  A good communicator is a good listener.  He will focus on and listen to what others are saying and will not interrupt them.  A good communicator will not finish the sentences of others.  He will ask questions to be sure he understands the other person’s thoughts.

4.  Learn to asset  yourself when communicating.  Be honest and open when expressing your feelings and thoughts.  Being assertive does not mean being aggressive.  Therefore, you do not want to be hostile or demanding when speaking.  Learn how to express what you need or want and learn how to express your opinion without causing conflict.  There are times when you will have to say “no”.  Learn how to do this effectively.

Strive to be calm when engaging in conversation.  Sometimes when we are stressed we say hurtful things or say something we regret.  If you are stressed and upset try to delay communicating until you are more calm and relaxed

If  you feel stressed during an interview for a job or an important business presentation you will probably not come across very well.  It is important to learn to handle your emotions so you can project a calm, informed, intelligent presence.   

5.  Before  you begin talking know where you are headed with the conversation.  You will be better understood by others if the intent of your conversation is clear in your mind.  People become annoyed with a conversation peppered with stops and starts and a disjointed hard to track flow of information.

Becoming a good communicator takes practice.  Try to master one technique at a time.  If you know someone you consider a good communicator study them and learn why they are so effective.  You may be able to adapt some of their methods for good communication to improve your own skills.