Coping With Tough Times

Everyone has some times in their life when they must face tough times.  Life is like a roller coaster.  There are times when you are on top and everything is great.  Then there are the tough times when you feel you are at the bottom and everything seems to be going wrong.

Some people feel that when bad times happen it is fate and there is nothing they can do about it.  They are calm and very inactive and simply accept whatever comes their way.  Others have a more positive outlook.  They are determined to find a solution and get past the tough time.

If you have a positive attitude and good coping skills, you will be in a better position to get through the tough times.  If you are a spiritual person this may give you some comfort.  Whether you feel like it or not, you should continue exercising, eating a healthy diet and getting enough sleep.

If you are simply overwhelmed with tasks that need to be accomplished don’t be too proud to ask someone for help.  You can return the favor at a later time.

If you need advice, then ask for it.

Find someone who will listen to your frustrations or listen to you vent if you need to.  It may be necessary to seek professional help.  Sometimes it helps to just talk with someone.

Sit down and make a list of all your assets.  When tough times come you may think you have nothing left.  Think about it.  You are alive and that is a good thing.  If you are in good health that is another asset.  A supportive family is still another asset.  What about friends?  You want to add your friends to your list of assets too.  When you write down a positive list of assets you will realize that all is not lost.  The first major step you should take during tough times is to get away from that feeling of hopelessness.

Now make a second list of the problems you are facing.  You want to separate the problems into two categories.  First there are the small problems and then there are the big problems.  Look over your list and determine which problems do not need to be addressed right now.  Then consider the problems that must be resolved.  Start with the small problems and begin to find solutions for them.  Make a list of how you think each problem can be resolved and then try for a solution to that problem.  Don’t feel discourage if the first solution to a problem does not work out.  Go on to plan B and try the next solution to the problem.  As each problem is settled you will feel your confidence growing.  Once you begin solving some of your problems you will be less stressed and will feel less depressed.

Facing tough times can be very hard.  These times will test your attitude and fortitude.  These are the times when you need to be strong and resilient.  It is great if you have a support system to help you get through these tough times.